Friends with Benefits?

Ok, this story is 100% real, though the names have been changed for privacy reasons. Let’s call our guy David, and our girl Sofia. Nothing personal with all the Davids and Sofias out there, I just really like the names. (Lol).

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~Have you ever tried to take control of a really awkward situation that you put yourself into? If you have, you know the feeling I’m talking about. For example, David and Sofia were both getting out of bad relationships. They liked each other but didn’t want anything serious at the moment. You see, they were both part of abusive relationships, where the partners were possessive and jealous people. They finally got the strength to end it before it grew worse. But let’s start at the beginning.

David writes:

I worked in a little bar close to Sofia’s house. We went to the same high school and we knew each other from afar. We added one another on facebook but never talked a lot. Sofia (supposedly lol) always had a thing for me, she said she always stalked my Facebook profile to see what I was up to (don’t act like you haven’t done that, πŸ˜‚). Finally, she grew “balls” and said hi to me via messenger. I replied, and thus a friendship (…with benefits lol) was born.

One day, I invited Sofia to the little bar I tended. And since I knew her favorite kind of beer, I put a couple of extra ones in the coldest part of the freezer for her. She walked in and that was our first physical “meet and greet”. Much to our surprise, we hit it off. I liked the way she moved her hips when she walked, she was petite, wide hips, big booty, dark haired, brown eyed, and a native kind of goddess.

She said she liked my voice and, being totally honest, she loved my butt, awkward lol. I was taller than her and she loved it. I served her a couple of beers and we just talked and talked till the end of my shift. When we finally said goodbye, we both left thinking about the same thing or so she says. πŸ˜‚

The thing is, we found out, we lusted each other so bad, we wanted to be close but not close enough for a serious thing. So we reached an agreement. Sex, no strings attached. Strictly physical, no jealousy, no compromise, no feelings, (we all know that always works out great— not!)

The first time we ever did it was in a car. It was hilarious, awkward, sweaty and messy. It was cringeworthy afterwards, the silence, the awkward tension inside the car, as I drove back to her house to drop her off. A couple of months went by and we grew fonder and fonder of each other. The thing was… sex was great, we were hungry for passion, hungry for one another.

Then one random day, I friend-zoned Sofia. She was so mad at herself, she had grown feelings for me and she knew that wasn’t part of the deal. So she kept it to herself. I cared for her, which is why I tried to end it before anyone could get hurt. Eventually, Sofia told me she had feelings for me and I told her I felt the same way. We tried to keep ourselves in order, so we thought a hit of time apart was better for the both of us. We stopped seeing each other for a while. But nope, didn’t work out.

I called Sofia one day to go for a drive and talk. So we went out for a bite and I handed her a little note. She started reading it and squealed, as the note said I loved her and wanted her to be my girlfriend. She immediately said yes. We finally accepted that there are things we can’t really take control of. There’s things that we put ourselves into and we try to lie to ourselves, but in the end LIFE IS SHORT. #YOLO (lol).

Fast forward to a couple of years later, where we had broken up and everything went wrong. Just kidding! We actually got married, (shocker!). At the present time (July 2018) we’ve been married three years and together in general 5 years. Many adventures, no kids, two cats.

So… bottom line, just because you don’t want something to happen, doesn’t mean it’s not gonna turn out the way you expect it to! ‘Friends with benefit’ relationships are not for everyone. πŸ˜‚


Hope you enjoyed reading this and feel free to send me your stories!

Till next time!

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